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I became a therapist because I believe everyone deserves a non-judgmental place to be witnessed, reflected, and challenged fairly. I know how life-changing it was to find a place like that of my own when I really needed it. 

In more than a decade working one-on-one with people of all ages, I've seen first-hand how expressive the soul can become when containment, care, and curiosity are offered reliably and compassionately.

This is the type of work where ups and downs and unknowns abound, but a therapeutic relationship that serves as an anchor can help you stay the course.

Introverted and neurocomplex, outside of the therapy room I usually find myself taking photographs, painting, collaging, writing, daydreaming, playing with clay at my local pottery studio, or cozying up with a good film, my partner, and my sweet pup, Toby.

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You're not  broken, failing, or "missing something"

Turns out you're a part of a human race that doesn't teach young people the fundamentals of emotions, communication, conflict, grief, attention, and attachment. That you're feeling stuck now indicates the need for new resources rather than your own irreparable failure, inadequacy, or unworthiness. It might be time to ask for help.

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How I Work

Therapy works best when we work together. My part in that collaboration is to offer a nurturing, inquisitive, and gently challenging space that invites you to explore themes of dissatisfaction in your life. Perhaps that’s perfectionism, creative blocks, relationships, unaddressed grief, chronic overwhelm, identity issues, feeling as though you've fallen behind, or struggling to see a worthwhile future.

 

Reimagining yourself and the world around you can be scary. Care, non-judgment, and gentle humor tend to ease this, which is part of the therapeutic relationship I cultivate.

 

I use a combination of approaches, including psychodynamic, humanistic, narrative, and relational modalities; therapies that invite you to meet the unconscious needs of your past as they haunt you now while moving forward with updated values, attitudes, and convictions. Where CBT and DBT skills may be helpful, I sprinkle them in.

What I Value

The process of self-discovery is a beautiful one. I see it as an opportunity to bring your whole self into greater focus. By turning toward and healing the unconscious material beneath your struggles, you can create meaningful, lasting change.

Within that unconscious material, you may begin to recognize that much of what shapes your inner world was formed by the world around you. The systems we grow up and live within — school, family, community, career — can profoundly influence our values, sense of self-worth, and experience of safety in the world.

Understanding how these systems have shaped and conditioned you can be a deeply meaningful part of therapy. It allows you to begin separating what is truly yours from what you were taught to carry, making space to release the blame, shame, and inertia that may have never belonged to you in the first place.


 

Where I Learned

Before launching my private practice, I worked with adults, couples, and adolescents in nonprofit and residential treatment settings. While completing the direct service hours required for licensure, I supported unhoused military veterans living with severe mental health challenges and navigating the transition back to civilian life after deployment. My work included providing individual therapy and case management, facilitating group therapy, and supporting clients’ recovery through evidence-based models including DBT, CBT, and Seeking Safety.

At Pacifica Graduate Institute in Central California, I earned my master’s degree in Counseling Psychology with an emphasis in Depth Psychology. I later completed an Advanced Certificate in Applied Mythology, an area of study that continues to inform the way I think about identity, meaning, and the stories we carry throughout our lives.

Therapy is my second career, and it’s still a little hard to believe that I’ve been practicing for more than a decade. Before studying psychology, I earned my BBA in Business Management from Hofstra University in New York, where I was born and raised. I spent the early part of my career working in digital marketing and music editorial in New York City, and while it was work I genuinely enjoyed, I ultimately discovered that therapy (and Los Angeles) felt more like home.

Carl Jung called suffering

a great teacher.

I see my role as one that helps you unlock its hidden lessons, supports you back to a healing place, and invites you expand through inquiry, alchemy, and meaning-making.

"Set within the seed of the soul is not just a fleeting image or a vague pattern but a lifelong story enfolded within, waiting to be cracked open and lived all the way out."
 


-Michael Meade

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Vanessa Setteducato, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

California #119184  |  Iowa #138015

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